Brutal or Brutally Honest??

 

 

 

Yesterday I was sitting with some friends on the porch of the Rec hall enjoying the last warm rays of the day. 

Billie and Annie were there with their beagle, Queenie. 

Jasmine sniffed noses with Queenie and went off to find herself some shade. 

 

Billie & Annie decided it was time for dinner and left just as Adam was walking up the steps with a drinking glass containing ice cubes and "a brown liquid"  I assumed (hell, I know it was) was Scotch  : /

 

For the third time in as many days, he started telling me how unfair the insurance company was, he wasn't going to make any money, the lawyer and his ex-wife were getting money more than him. 

 

As he talked his voice grew louder.  He talked more about the picures & videoes taken of him at the RV Park tossing his daughter up in the air in the pool and pics of him at work carrying heavy objects at work.  He talked how he wanted to get out of his small trailer,  & how he was planning on taking his daughter "somewhere",  somewhere they couldn't be found.

 

I listened and told him he sure sounded depressed. 

He agreed and said he couldn't eat or do anything these days, these weeks, these months.

His voice grew even louder and he rambled on about how unfair it is.

 

 

 

 

 

Now, I am thinking....

 1 ~ YOU need a therapist

 2~ YOU want to do WHAT with your daughter??

3~ YOU are drinking way TOO much

 

 

I said to him, maybe you should not have returned to work.

His answer.....He had a daughter and child support and insurance to pay.

 

 

Then I said, "The way workman's comp looks at it.....if you can do more than what the Dr says you can do, they don't have to pay you.  *Actually, it's called fraud, but I didn't go there!

 

His answer:  I laid on my back for 8 months looking at nothing but the ceiling for 8 months.  There is nothing worse than waht I went thru.

 

 

Well, there is....people who have cancer and will die, people who need transplants & never get them, and people who have had injuries like his and have brain damage or are quadriplegics.  Some never wake up & end up in the hospitals I've worked in.  And these people are on ventilators for the duration of their lives.

 

Workman's Compensation doesn't pay you for pain and suffering, they evaluate what is happening now and from that, what your future disability will be. 

 

He said: I am sick of Florida, I just want to go back HOME (Chicago)!  I want to get out of that trailer I can't stand it here anymore.....they are trying to screw me!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now for the part I wish I could take back....or maybe not.

 

I looked at him and told him that he needed not to let it get to him.  He was getting way too upset about something out of his control.  He needs to relax and just realize that it is in the lawyers hands....the more money the lawyer gets for his client, the more money the lawyer gets, so he is out to push it.  "It is, what it is" and will just have to play itself out. 

 

Then, just because I am on a roll now.... I added, thatif he wanted to get the most out of the insurance people he should have followed Dr's orders and not done anything over what the Dr listed as his limitations. 

It fell on Deaf ears : /

 

Still I continued and told him I was insulted that he asked me if I would watch Heather while he went to the liquor store and bought a bottle.  It wasn't right! 

 

Then I added that he had a problem, one big problem, and the problem was what was in that glass!!  AND...when he chooses what is in that glass to my company, he really has a problem!

 

 

 

 

I turned back around watched the sun set for a few minutes more.  Said good bye and left.

 

This afternoon, Sue told me that he hubby had talked with Adam last night and he was obviously drunk.  She apologized to me for thinking we would be a good match.  Said she had heard a rumor that he drinking problem, but thought it was that, a rumor. 

 

I had also heard the rumor from the "Snoop Sisters" of the park.  There was an agruement one day between Adam and his EX  in the parking lot that they had witness last spring/early summer when the EX came to pick Heather up.  They were arguing LOUDLY about his drinking while the daughter was here ::sigh:: 

 

I had hope it was rumor from another source, also.

And it was one reason I took my time to considor going out with him. 

 

 

Now back to the title of my entry.....

 

Brutal....should I have kept my mouth shut?

Brutally Honest.....I've been told it's harsh at times, but I always tell it like it is.  Maybe it's not such an endearing quality.